My 37 year old fiancé has TS. We’ve been together for 4 years. His tics includes constant coughing and throat clearing. He also often times jerks his head from side-to-side cracking it. It looks painful to me. He does have a tic that causes him pain and he has missed work because of it and that’s when he clenches his entire upper body and jerks it. This causes him to have muscle spasms in his flank muscles that I sometimes have to work the knots out. I feel for him because when he’s awake he can never be in a complete state of relaxation. We have gone for massages together and we both find it surprising how for that whole hour during, he doesn’t have one tic or one jerk. This tells me there could potentially be a drug that could suppress his tics. He’s never tried any. When I talked to my doctor about him they told me the negative side effects to the medication out way the tics themselves. What do you think?
We met through E-Harmony and he never mentioned he had TS. On our first date I also asked him if he had a cold as others have mentioned, and he said he’s had “this cough”. Knowing now, he was probably insecure about bringing up his tics at the time (awful feeling…). When he met my family, my mom asked the same, “Do you have a cold?” After doing some research I told him that I think he has TS. He admitted to me that a doctor diagnosed him with TS when he was about 8 years old. He seemed surprised when I brought it up as if he didn’t know for sure what was causing him these tics. Maybe again due to insecurities. I didn’t care, if anything I loved him more for it! Twice when I myself was at medical appointments and he was with me, both doctors asked him if he had a cold. I finally said “He has TS”, and told him, “Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed to say it!” He still doesn’t tell people. I guess he’s spent his lifetime trying to hide it.
He does make me jump a lot because they’re unexpected and startles me. He has made the 2 cats we have jump sometimes too! We laugh at it and he usually apologizes and the cats do come back! Glad I came across this wall to see that he’s not alone. I’d love to learn more about medications pros and cons due to the pain that he often times feels. Thanks!